Role play can be an incredibly fun and fulfilling way to spice up your sex life—once you move past the initial awkwardness. Your local Spencer's is a great spot to explore costumes and accessories that can help bring your fantasies to life.
Picture this: You're putting on the final piece of a costume, maybe a fluffy hat from that Halloween sale, and suddenly, you feel a little ridiculous. The heels aren’t helping either. Your partner is in the other room, and you're convinced they're going to laugh the moment they see you. You don't feel sexy—you feel silly.
Sound familiar? Role play often sounds amazing in theory, but when it’s time to act it out, it can feel a bit uncomfortable. That’s a shame, because role play offers a chance to act out hot fantasies in a safe, consensual environment. And guess what? It doesn’t have to feel ridiculous. While some giggles are inevitable, here are eight tips to keep your role play sexy, fun, and free of awkward moments.
1. Discuss the Role Play Ahead of Time
Before diving into any role play, have a conversation with your partner about the scenario. What excites you both about it? Clarifying details ahead of time ensures you're on the same page. If one of you is imagining a damsel in distress while the other envisions a strict disciplinarian, it could lead to confusion mid-scene. Talking it out will help you both enjoy the moment.
2. Practice "Yes, And..."
Most of us stopped playing pretend as kids, which is why it can feel awkward now. Take a cue from improv comedy and practice saying "Yes, and..." with your partner. Build on each other’s ideas without shutting anything down. For example, if you're hunting for the TV remote and say, "I think a tiny creature stole it," your partner could respond, "Yes, and I hear skittering behind the walls." This playful mindset can help ease you into role play, making it more natural and fun.
3. Dress the Part
Wearing the right outfit can make all the difference. It not only helps your partner see you in character, but it also helps you embody the role. Whether you’re a nurse, maid, or cop, putting on the right clothes can immediately get you into the right mindset. Adding small accessories can take things to the next level, such as a playful paddle for a nurse or handcuffs for that sexy cop routine.
4. Spend the Day Apart
It’s hard to imagine your partner as someone new when you’ve just spent hours discussing daily life. If possible, spend the day apart to build excitement. No texting, no calls—just time to immerse yourself in your role. If a hotel or a friend’s place is an option, go there to prepare. The anticipation of seeing each other again in new personas can make the encounter all the more thrilling.
5. Meet in a New Location
If your usual bedroom feels too familiar, try switching up the environment. A hotel room or a themed Airbnb can bring your role play to life. If traveling isn’t feasible, consider setting the scene at home. Decorate the room to fit your scenario—rope for a Western theme, or maybe candles for a romantic tryst. The right setting can make it easier to stay in character.
6. Know Your Role
You don’t need to be an expert in your role, but having some basic knowledge helps prevent awkward moments. If you're playing a nurse, for example, brushing up on some medical terms can keep the scene smooth. Knowing a few key details about your character’s profession or scenario adds authenticity and keeps the moment feeling sexy rather than silly.
7. Use a Safeword
Safewords are essential in any kinky play, and they can make role play feel even more secure. If you and your partner know that there’s a clear way to say "stop" when something crosses a line, you’ll feel more comfortable diving into the scene. Just make sure the safeword is unrelated to the role play—something simple, like "banana," works best.
8. Expect Giggles
Let’s face it—role play can be a bit silly at times. And that’s okay! If you find yourselves laughing during a scene, embrace it. Laughter can break the ice and help you feel more connected to your partner. So, if you get the giggles, go with the flow and have fun with it.
Conclusion
With these tips in mind, you’re ready to make role play a fun and sexy part of your relationship. And when you're ready for another round, remember that your local Spencer’s has a wide variety of costumes and accessories to explore. Get creative, have fun, and enjoy exploring new fantasies together!